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Dear Street Sage,

I am about to turn 30, most of my friends are married with kids in the future. All I want is to date someone who isn’t married or divorced, doesn’t have kids but does have a job. Is this to much to ask for at my age?

– Feeling Old

Dear Feeling Old,

Stop it. 30 now is not 30 like it ever was before. In today’s world, we get married later in life. Women used to put careers on hold to have families, not now. Yes, it is discouraging, especially if you are wanting babies. Stop dating married men if you want a commitment, stop dating guys with kids if you don’t want them to have kids. A man with a job is always sexier than one without. As far as divorced… don’t hate on a man because he tried a commitment that didn’t work. Find out the reason behind the divorce first.

Think of your own baggage? Naturally, as we get older, we carry more and more baggage. It’ll be a rare thing at 30 if you find someone with zero baggage. You need to find someone who’s baggage fits with yours. It’s not impossible.

To officially answer your question: No, it is not to much to ask for. It’s ok to have standards, but try being open to the past of others. The more open you are to different types of people, the more likely you are to find someone who’s baggage fits with yours.

That’s just my opinion.

– Street Sage

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