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Heroin Brother

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Dear Street Sage,

My one and only brother has been using heroin. We live very different lives and so it is hard to relate. He had been using, got himself clean, then started using again. It wasn’t until he relapsed that he told me of his situation. Sadly there are only a few people who know about this and can give him support. Being that I don’t know much about this kind of thing, how can I support him? We don’t live in the same state, we don’t have a lot in common and I’ve never done any drugs….What can I do?

– Lost

Dear Lost,

If your brother is talking to you at all about his situation, consider that a good thing. The problem with drugs is…they’re awesome. They make you feel good and that’s what people get addicted to, feeling good. You can not push him into getting any kind of professional help. He has to want that on his own. But what you can do is gather information on rehab centers near him, Narcotics Anonymous meetings in his area and connect with those who also know of his addiction. When supporting an addict, you need support yourself. You said only a few people knew of his situation so make sure that you don’t betray his trust because he will stop talking to you about what’s happening with him. If he does that you should worry. Since this is still the early stage of you figuring out what to do, the best thing I can tell you to do is educate yourself on what can help him in his area.

That’s just my opinion. Good luck, write me again if you need me.

– The Street Sage

Business with Pleasure

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Dear Street Sage,

I am in my mid twenties, I have a life long desire to own my own company, I’m gay and I am in lust with the man I would like to run a business with. Can I have my man and business too? I haven’t told him that I like him as more than a friend and I also have not told him we should do business together…I guess I’m just lost in lust. I think I’m in friend zone to top it off. What should I do?

Business Man

Dear Business Man,

Running a business is very tricky, running it with a friend, lover, partner etc. gets even trickier. It’s not impossible, it all depends on who you are and who he is and what kind of business you run. But lets take things slow…

Step 1: Tell the guy you like him. You need to find out if you are stressing over nothing. Maybe he put you in friend zone because he thinks you are not an option for him. Or maybe you put your self in friend zone…Either way, you need to find out.

Step 1 A: If he likes you too, work on the relationship for a while before you decided to start a business together, you don’t want to jump in to two relationships at the same time, that never works for anyone.

Step 1 B: If he wants to be friends only, it is your job to not make it awkward and find a way to keep the friendship. Wait long enough to know your friendship is still solid, then talk business.

Once your feelings have been figured out then you can focus on the business side of things. You can not start a business with someone you have secret feelings for. Do not make up a romantic relationship in your head, read into things that aren’t there, hope that if business things go well then maybe one day…. No. Stop it. Put the business side of things away for now, you are young enough to find another person to go into business with if need be. Follow your heart first.

That’s just my opinion.

The Street Sage

Bitch at Work

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Dear Street Sage
 
There’s this bitch at work who I cannot stand.  She’s never done anything to me personally, I just hate everything about her.  Every time she opens her mouth, I want to slap the face right off her stupid head.  I’m afraid one of these days I’m going to do or say something I’ll seriously regret.  But seriously – 5 minutes with her and you’d wanna cut a bitch, too! What do I do so I don’t lose my job? Or go to jail.
-M.M.
Dear M.M.
Calm it down. This annoying bitch at work is definitely not worth losing your job or going to jail. Do you know anything about her personal life? Maybe she is really annoying because the rest of her life sucks…or maybe she is that bad. Either way, you should find out what makes her tick. There is something to be said about the old saying “keep your friends close and your enemies closer”.
If you find out that her personal life is in shambles maybe it would
A. Give you sympathy for her
B. Let you judge her even more
C. Give you something to use against her OR
D. Maybe you find out you don’t hate her so much after all
You say she has never done anything to you personally so I imagine she maybe has an annoying voice, or everything she says is rude or condescending. She may even be some sort of competition for you.  Maybe you need to check yourself on a few things too.
That’s just my opinion.
– Street Sage