Dear Street Sage,
I am in my mid twenties, I have a life long desire to own my own company, I’m gay and I am in lust with the man I would like to run a business with. Can I have my man and business too? I haven’t told him that I like him as more than a friend and I also have not told him we should do business together…I guess I’m just lost in lust. I think I’m in friend zone to top it off. What should I do?
Dear Business Man,
Running a business is very tricky, running it with a friend, lover, partner etc. gets even trickier. It’s not impossible, it all depends on who you are and who he is and what kind of business you run. But lets take things slow…
Step 1: Tell the guy you like him. You need to find out if you are stressing over nothing. Maybe he put you in friend zone because he thinks you are not an option for him. Or maybe you put your self in friend zone…Either way, you need to find out.
Step 1 A: If he likes you too, work on the relationship for a while before you decided to start a business together, you don’t want to jump in to two relationships at the same time, that never works for anyone.
Step 1 B: If he wants to be friends only, it is your job to not make it awkward and find a way to keep the friendship. Wait long enough to know your friendship is still solid, then talk business.
Once your feelings have been figured out then you can focus on the business side of things. You can not start a business with someone you have secret feelings for. Do not make up a romantic relationship in your head, read into things that aren’t there, hope that if business things go well then maybe one day…. No. Stop it. Put the business side of things away for now, you are young enough to find another person to go into business with if need be. Follow your heart first.
That’s just my opinion.
The Street Sage