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Relationship Tangent

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There are many kinds of relationships: emotional, friendly, physical, sexual, unhealthy, professional, open, faithful, monogamist, confusing…etc..

How many categories can you fit in? Sometimes you can get a good combo platter going. Ya know, open relationships are hard, but they work for some people. You find out pretty quick if you are one of those people, but be careful because you might not think you are then something slips and all of a sudden you are that person  you thought was so terrible before.

We can not judge what works for someone else. There are religions and cultures that embrace marriages with more than one person. This works for them, who am I to judge. There are people who date married people and justify it. There are men and women who marry as a cover so they can date the same sex and not have people bothering them. There are people who just have sex with as many people as possible. Some people go from one abusive relationship to the next and some people can only figure out friendship.

It’s important to remember not to hurt anyone. It doesn’t matter the type of relationship, as long as there is respect. Always be open and honest about what type of relationship you’re in. Be on the same page, always, it’s only fair.

Oh, and don’t forget about yourself. Are you happy? If you are not happy in any relationship, leave. You can’t save anyone, you need to make yourself happy above anything else. Obviously there are circumstances involving children, that’s a whole new tangent. Make, Yourself. Happy. It’s the relationship with yourself that lasts a life time.

That’s just my opinion.

– The Street Sage

Cheating

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Dear Street Sage, 

I’ve been dating this guy for almost a year and I think he may be cheating on me. I’ve asked him about it and he denies it. But he’s been distant and we’ve been having less sex. I don’t want to become the crazy girlfriend, how can I find out if he is really cheating?

– Confused

Dear Confused,

If you have not ended the relationship at this point you must believe him on some level that he is not cheating. Either that, or you believe he is cheating and you don’t care enough to leave him. There are many different kinds of relationships out there. But if you have not agreed to be in some sort of open relationship, cheating is not OK. It seems to me you need to spell things out very clearly, make him talk to you about what’s going on with him. Is there extra stress at work or within his family? Usually when there is extra stress added to life, sex drive goes down. Maybe he wants to end your relationship and doesn’t know how….

Suggestions:

– Wait it out, see if he gets through his slump

– Tell him if he doesn’t talk to you about what’s going on you’ll leave him, hear his response, act accordingly

– End the relationship. If you are not happy, not getting enough sex,  always worried about him cheating and he is not communicating with you then it doesn’t seem to be a very healthy relationship

I am a firm believer that we, as humans, will do anything in life until we can no longer do it. That is just my opinion.

– Street Sage