A lot of people party during their 20’s. It’s a blissful time a when you can party till 4am, wake up at 9am, go to class or to work, come home and nap, wake up and do it all again. I should clarify, when I talk about partying, I’m talking – drinking, smoking, drugs of some kind (or not), music, dancing, sex.
The thing is, as you get older, hangovers get worse. It’s not a myth, it’s a fact. But also, as you get older, you don’t want to live your day-to-day life running to the bathroom to throw up or walking around with a headache. It becomes more important that you don’t call in sick to work, that you show up on time and perform your job. As you get older you might get married and start a family, or just start a family, then you have a little person who relies on you. Life changes. Change is good.
Being an adult doesn’t mean that you have to stop hanging out with your friends. You are still allowed to have a some nights out and maybe smoke a little pot if you so chose. Growing up does not mean that you have to stop enjoying life. Your personality does not have to die with your lifestyle. BORING. In fact, I would bet anything your day-to-day life will be happier if you played with your friends more often. Or maybe you’ve got the family life going, then you just want to spend time growing a family. Grow that family, enjoy it. Even then, enjoy your friends too from time to time.
If I had to have a moral to the story, I would go with…Being grown up means something different to everyone. To me it means that I take care of myself. I put way less chemicals into my body, I hate being hung over, I work and I work hard, at both jobs. I enjoy playing with my friends, I pay my bills on time, I am starting to think of what it would mean to have a family, I want to see the world and can afford to see a little. I save money, nieces and nephews are more important than I could ever have imagined and I told my mom I smoke pot sometimes. I also live with a roommate, we split bills so that’s nice. I’m single and I’m prefer it right now because I’m still trying to figure out this whole adult thing.
I think I’m doing it right. You probably are to, unless you’ve turned boring. In that case, stop that shit. You don’t have to be boring to be an adult.
That’s just my opinion.
– The Street Sage
Dear Street Sage-
I don’t mean to toot my own horn, but I am a good worker. I’m on time, I work hard, I encourage my co workers, but I have had no promotions. How do I make my employers see me in a different light. I need to move up or out!
Dear Tired Worker-
After reading your question these are the questions that pop into my head…
1) Have you told your employers that you want to move up in your company?
2) Do you have all the necessary qualifications to move up? (whatever that might mean, degree, # years of experience, etc)
3) Is there an open position? If there is, is it a job you apply for or get picked for?
Ok, after all those generall questions, that should make you think too. What you need to do is speak up for yourself, someone who wants to move up to higher positions should not be afraid to advocate for themselves. Make sure there is no doubt in the mind of whomever is in charge, that you want to step it up. In fact, be persistent, If you get passes up for the next step up, ask your supervisor/employer/boss to have a sit down with you. Ask them why you didn’t get chosen and how you can improve to make it to the next level. That would show that you are willing to admit you are not perfect and that you are willing to grow.
Don’t secretly be mad about getting passed up, make sure they know you’re in it to be the best and excel in whatever tasks they throw your way. They can’t promote you if they don’t think you’re interested.
That’s just my opinion.
– The Street Sage
I hear in other countries they work less. It’s said that almost anywhere else in the world, besides the United States, that days of rest and vacation are encouraged. In some countries you can get free health care, mothers can get up to a year of maternity leave, fathers get maternity leave, you can get a decent amount of vacation hours, etc..
Yes, the US is one of the richest countries. Yes, citizens of the US have a lot more freedoms than some other countries. But are we happy? I think a lot of people have forgotten what it’s like to be surrounded by nature and how to enjoy life. There is a certain kind of peace you get when you slow life down a bit. When you don’t feel like you have to check your phone every 5-7 seconds. We work so hard to afford life we forget to live.
How many people do you know have more than one job? I know I do. I can go months sometimes without having a true day off of work and for what? I still can’t afford any kind of health insurance or a house. People with college degrees are begging to work at fast food restaurants and kids with no work ethic are getting jobs over those people because they are “over qualified”. Obviously they are over qualified and desperately need a job or they wouldn’t be applying….
I want to live somewhere where I can do my work, live comfortably and still have time to play. I want to feel, after I worked a 60 hour work week, that I can go to sleep peacefully at night. We work and work and work and for what?
I’m tired of working my ass of to barely get by in life. I wish I had a solution for us.
That’s just my opinion. – The Street Sage