Take Your Own Advice0
Dear Street Sage,
I often find myself giving advice to my friends. I often find myself in ridiculous situations. I often get annoyed if I’m receiving advice. I’m not sure if it’s because I feel like I’m being told something I already know or if it is because it makes me feel weak. So I’m not really sure what I want from you, I guess the real question is, how do I take my own advice?
Dear Advice Giver-
There is no secret to taking your own advice, you either do or you don’t. People need to start understanding that they are in control of what they do and the choices they make. Yes, there are influences all around us, but in the final end we make our own decisions. I try to portray that in my advice, I do not have YOUR final answer. All I have is a very small amount of information that YOU have chosen to give me. All I can do is see what some options are and suggest how one might handle them. I think you should try to do the same for yourself and those you give advice. We all make choices, even ones we know are wrong or might make us unhappy in the end. But we do what we do and we learn from everything, if no one made bad choices how would we know what the right ones are? On top of that, who is to say what is a bad choice. Sometimes we justify our actions because we want people to understand them.
Example: I’m sleeping with a married man, do I know it is wrong and do I hate myself a little for it? Yes, yes I do. But do I do it anyway because I need that kind of affection right now? Yes, yes I do.
So I guess I could argue with myself if there is even such thing as a “bad choice”, since I also encourage people to never regret anything. The best way to give advice is to simply listen. When people are asking for advice they give all the details that they want you to know that will lead you to give them the advice they’ve been looking for. They want you to tell them what they’re deciding is the right thing. We all know that isn’t always the case, there is always a wild card. Trust yourself and know in the end, Advice Giver, you are the only one who can make yourself listen to you.
That’s just my opinion.
– Street Sage